Don’t romanticize the old days…
As a young working class mum who couldn’t sew, cook or do ‘Blue Peter’ things with sticky back plastic, Little House on the Prairie it wasn’t!
I made lentil soup and insisted the children ate it – they vomited it all back up so I reverted to something with lots of salt and sugar.
I spent a lot of time cleaning and washing and ironing the children’s clothes (cheap but new) and the boiled white nappies were hung on the line with great pride. These were the things that were important at the time and, whilst some of it was a ‘class’ thing, I sometimes look back and wish I’d not been so up tight about such temporal things.
When I see the wonderful way my daughter parents my grandchildren and the incredible little people they are, I see a different world with different values and I’m proud and know that, in the words of Julie Andrews (aka Mrs. Von Trap) “I must have done something right”.
I once asked my daughter what she got from me and she replied: “shit tits”. How we laughed, but, I know she got more than this when I remember:
- Packing up my three year old son to go on a lion hunt (in the back garden)
- Mountaineering up the stairs with a hoover flex (don’t try this at home)
- Singing…’Wide Wide as the Ocean’ with all of the actions
- Climbing real mountains together
- Always reading a bed time story
- Rituals, like fish and chips on Fridays and new jim jams on Christmas Eve
- Choreographing dances together and performing them
- Eating together
- Talking around the dinner table
- Praying for each other
- Watching a calf being delivered on a farm where we were camping
So, put lots of effort into making memories – they don’t cost the earth.
Nana Carole, Lincolnshire xx
[If you love Nana Carole, (and seriously, who doesn't?) you will probably also love Granny Ailsa.]


Love Nana Carole!
I got wide hips and a whole lot of northern grit from my mum (don’t tell her I admitted to that positive though) x
Laughed out loud at the mountaineering up the stairs. Reminded me that I really need to have a LOT more fun with my kids. Modern parents (well, maybe it’s just me) spend a lot of time wondering if we are doing it ‘right’ and reading books to help us do it ‘right’. Actually, I’ve now banned myself from those sort of books, I haven’t bought a special snack for my babies in ages and my kids (x 3) have a pretty pathetically small amount of toys (compared to their friends), but a large amount of imagination (and energy). So, I don’t feel I’m doing too bad… but I need to stop reading great blogs (darn you for what looks like it’s going to be a good ‘un!) and PLAY a lot, LOT more!
Hahahhaa; shit tits! I lost a bit of coffee when I read that
I wish I’d inherited the deep love of cleaning that both my mother and grandmother seemed to have. They were never happier than when they were step scrubbing or finding something to mop….
Seems to have skipped a generation with me, bit of a shame really
Kate
Just Pirouette and Carry On…